The roles in the couple

Through many centuries of tradition in the couple's roles remained stable. The man was considered the provider of all material support and the woman, was devoted to housework and child rearing. The roles of each member the couple were very well established and their functions:

The man in the public world and women belonged to the private space.

Clearly a balance insurance. Each one to his due, period. There was more to say, discuss and observe. Women and men well understood and assumed its role as a condition without protest.

However, the only thing permanent is change in this world today. All was changed, the roles, roles, functions and duties as well. Any changes to the interior of the couple, is a change in family life and Thus, in the relationships established in social life as well.

It seems that both men and women would like, I would like to keep things the same way, but with the factor of change at the same time. Women and men are not equal, nor their roles, and its functions. You can switch roles. You can be part of family support. You can have a sense of collaboration in the responsibilities of motherhood and fatherhood differently from previous generations. But it seems that daily life imposes on reality.

In today's world things are very different. However, in the streets I watch a lot of women with the child in the back, and man, in many cases absent. Also the role of masculinity has been eroding. Countless women and in the relationship, especially when they have their money, beat the man and make him feel useless.

The incursion of women in work and school life has had serious consequences. I do not want more women submission. Is able to generate their own livelihoods. You no longer need a man to keep it. It is organized and can work, study, support the children and also perform other functions.

What remains for the man in this perspective? Treat this situation from a gender perspective is fine, is what is expected, is desirable. The male is responsible for all evil, abuse, inequality and not much else.

But looking a little more, the relationships and roles that exist between men and women wear, and involve a number of circumstances.

The roles are dictated by society. They are pregnant for education. We learn them by what we see as children. The culture is determined to establish them. When for some reason are not met as a duty? AN met. We hear very harsh judgments about people. For example:

Þ When a man does not give enough money for the house. He is considered a maintenance and deobligated.

Þ In contrast, if the wife works and is out of the house a considerable time, say the situation and is always the one with expressions, how, why their children are as they are, if she does not pay attention!

In any way for what is expected of social roles no one can give the width. The reality is that families and couples to establish their balance in daily life according to what each partner can contribute and wants.

Who does what and how: refers to that in a world like today .... What each partner makes a contribution to the project partner. No matter what the socially expected roles.

The dictates of society and those around us are full of preconceived ideas. At this moment, all the functions, roles, mate choice, the economy, showing absolutely everything blurred. There are no limits for declaring that is right and what is wrong.

The most important thing is the people's daily lives. It is the role that "must carry". It is rather the willingness, intention, good will you have to do it. This is what is giving us the category of being a partner that nourishes or wearing.

Who does what and how: a circumstance that each couple must decide. If one works and one stays home, that's right for this couple in particular. It is evident that what is decided also includes a commitment to two. Just because one does not comply with the agreement is missing its promise. Let's be clear on the role does not fail, but his commitment to live as a couple.

Who does what and how: it is a balancing act. To qualify it is necessary to ... to give is necessary to receive and even when the words seem very easy to say, the stock is not always the case. There are couples who one member takes the brunt of functions. The result is generally resentment, blame, fatigue and tension.

In this life of two, we have chosen to undertake, it is that this is our alternative lifestyle, it is important to define who does what and how ... to not feel surprised, angry, disappointed and betrayed by our mate. Of course it is necessary that both agree. It is also important to note that such agreements are changing over the years or when we feel that it no longer satisfies us that far from contributing to our relationship, by contrast, makes it worse. Be open to change is a feature that couples need to take into account in this world today.

Who does what and how: a mandate is not static, however, is a set of actions and reactions. Do not forget that the partner is an individual project that we are willing to share with another to whom we appreciate, love and are willing to give time, attention, living ... at least for the time that we have chosen to live as a couple.

But in this we are doing and undoing in our life together ... the most important, is not only what we want and expect from us or the couple do ... And, if we do each and how we do it for contribute to living together.

The choices are ours from the individual, how to carry them out depends on our willingness or attitude.

Our methods also reflect our hows ...

WHEN LOVE BECOMES PARTNER IN PAIN.

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